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dunawhoo said: A boss once told me, "Find your voice." ... What does that even *mean*?
it means that everybody is truly uniquely different, when it comes down to it, but we spend our lives trying to sound right and look right; mostly by trying to sound and look like other people and getting lost in the echo and the imitation.
if you’re still enough, there’s a sound and expression that comes out of you that isn’t like anything that’s ever happened before or will ever happen again.
that’s your voice.
it’s who you actually *are*, instead of the person you think everyone is supposed to be seeing…the pretty one, the fat one, the perfect one, the one who’s “good at x”, the dutiful daughter, the long-suffering addict, the one in control, etc. none of those things are you, or your voice. your voice is what’s underneath that.
if that makes sense.
We begin to find and become ourselves when we notice how we are already found, already truly, entirely, wildly, messily, marvelously who we were born to be. The only problem is that there is also so much other stuff, typically fixations with how people perceive us, how to get more of the things that we think will make us happy, and with keeping our weight down. So the real issue is how do we gently stop being who we aren’t? How do we relieve ourselves of the false fronts of people-pleasing and affectation, the obsessive need for power and security, the backpack of old pain, and the psychic Spanx that keeps us smaller and contained?
Here’s how I became myself: mess, failure, mistakes, disappointments, and extensive reading; limbo, indecision, setbacks, addiction, public embarrassment, and endless conversations with my best women friends; the loss of people without whom I could not live, the loss of pets that left me reeling, dizzying betrayals but much greater loyalty, and overall, choosing as my motto William Blake’s line that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love."
The magnificent Anne Lamott on how to begin becoming the person you were meant to be.explore-blog)
fables-of-the-reconstruction said: Magnificent.
Thank you :)